Mary Ann Southam
1941 - Jan. 20, 2020
Palo Alto/Portola Valley, California
Mary Ann Southam (Currie) On January 20, 2020, Mary Ann Southam, age 79, passed away at Sunrise Palo Alto due to complications of liver cancer. She was born in Bagley, Minnesota, to Archibald and Lillian Currie. Due to her father’s rising career as an educator, the family moved to Mahtomedi, Evansville, and Garden City, Minnesota, before relocating, in 1954, to Tustin, California. After graduation from Tustin Union High School, Mary attended UCLA, where she earned her BS and MS degrees in kinesiology. She spent the following years as a teacher and school administrator before entering Stanford University and obtaining her PhD in Behavioral Healthcare. This led to a 20-year career as Vice-President at ALZA/Johnson and Johnson in Palo Alto, California, where she oversaw the clinical development of the world's first transdermal fentanyl drug delivery product. Mary is credited with 12 publications and 14 patents. She has been retired since 2004. In August 2019, Mary and her best friend and loving husband James Southam celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. They have enjoyed a life filled with the pleasures of world travel, good food and fine wine, dancing, Stanford football...
Philip Albert Capin
Aug. 10, 1956 - Jan. 18, 2020
Palo Alto, California
Philip Albert Capin, a long-time resident of Palo Alto, CA, passed away on January 18, 2020 at the age of 63. Phil is survived by his wife, Mandy, and his sons Philip (partner to Kelley), John (partner to Sydney), and Andrew, as well as his two granddaughters, Finley and Camden. He is also survived by his parents, Jerry and Roxanna Barnett, his sisters Leslie Capin (partner to Jayne) and Estrella Capin (partner to Kim), his brother John A. Capin and a large extended family of nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, and cousins. His father, Samuel Capin, predeceased him. Phil grew up in a large but tight-knit family in Nogales, AZ. Phil graduated from Nogales High School in 1974 and attended Cornell University, where in 1978 he earned a B.S. in Industrial Engineering and Operations Research. He was a member of Phi Delta Theta fraternity and he loved his college years. After graduating from Cornell, Phil worked for VIP Structures in Syracuse, NY and found his calling in construction. He then received an M.S. in Civil Engineering from Stanford University in 1984. For over thirty years, Phil worked in the Bay Area construction industry as a well-respected project manager – first ...
Marilynn W Phillips
June 10, 1921 - Jan. 16, 2020
Palo Alto, California
Marilynn Phillips was born June 10, 1921 in Ann Arbor, Michigan. She passed away peacefully at Stanford Hospital with her daughter by her side on January 16, 2020. She earned her BA degree from Michigan State University and her Master's degree from Ohio State University, after which she worked as a dietitian at Saginaw General Hospital. She married Russell Cole Phillips in 1946. They moved to Menlo Park when Russell was employed by Stanford Research Institute, and then to Palo Alto in 1956 where they lived in the same house on Garland Drive until moving into Channing House together in 1993. Marilynn was an active volunteer in virtually everything involving her children from field trip chaperone to Cub Scout den mother. Later, she volunteered with Stanford's Bechtel International Center where she found tremendous satisfaction in sponsoring international students, often staying in touch with them for years after they left Stanford. She enjoyed camping with her family in our beautiful National Parks, traveling all over the world with Russ, sewing and knitting, arranging flowers from Russ's gardens, entertaining friends with her wonderful meals, playing with the family dogs, and eating...
June 19, 1923 - Jan. 5, 2020
Menlo Park, CA
On Sunday, January 5, 2020, Rose Ann Sayler, long time dance teacher and Menlo Park resident passed away at the age of 96. She was predeceased by her loving husband, Lewis Sayler and her six siblings. Rose Ann grew up in Oklahoma and it is told she took her first dance class when her older sister did not finish her chores, so RoseAnn was allowed to attend in her place. She loved to dance and left home to perform for the troops during WWII. After the war, she settled in Menlo Park and began teaching dance. At first the studio was named RoseAnn’s Dance Studio, but was later changed to Menlo Park Academy of Dance. RoseAnn was known for her infectious smile and strong determination as well as her love of children....
Douglas Alden Karlson
Aug. 1, 1948 - Jan. 1, 2020
Palo Alto, California
Douglas Alden “Doug” Karlson of Palo Alto passed away on January 1, 2020 at age 71. Born in Minneapolis, he attended Phillips Andover Academy in Massachusetts before matriculating to Stanford University where he earned a B.S. and M.S. in Mechanical Engineering. After finishing his studies Doug settled permanently in California and established a long career as a manufacturing and supply chain manager in the Bay Area. Doug found joy in nature and the outdoors, in the Bay Area’s food and wine culture, in travel to Europe and Asia, and in the community at Stanford Memorial Church. He was a member of the Stanford Rowing team and reconnected with the sport later in life through the Bair Island Aquatic Center in Redwood City, where he served as a board member, president, and treasurer. Rebecca, his wife of 41 years, predeceased him in 2010. He is survived by his daughter Sarah Karlson of Seattle, son Doug Karlson of Morgan Hill, and partner Nancy Radcliffe of Redwood City. A memorial service will be held at 4:00pm on Monday, February 3rd at Stanford Memorial Church....
Dec. 20, 1923 - Dec. 28, 2019
Redwood City, CA
Rev. Sarah E. "Sally" Brown passed away on December 28, 2019, in Redwood City, California at the age of 96. She was a resident of Palo Alto and Redwood City for 56 years. Sally was born December 20, 1923, in Manila, Philippines, where her mother was a high school principal. Sally had a keen interest in dance and wanted to be a ballet dancer. When World War II broke out in the Pacific, her mother sent her to live with relatives in Washington. Sally met her husband at the University of Washington, where she graduated cum laude. After raising four children, Sally went back to college to achieve her MA in Recreation Therapy. She worked for many years as a recreation therapist, incorporating dance into group activities. She also became a consultant and teacher. In 1977, Sally joined Alcoholics Anonymous. Upon her death, she had forty-two years of active sobriety, and countless women were influenced by her example. With her husband David, Sally co-wrote the ground-breaking "A Biography of Mrs. Marty Mann: The First Lady of Alcoholics Anonymous" (Hazelden; 2001). In addition, Sally and her husband co-authored a book for families dealing with addiction. Always learning an...
Eleanor Jane Rhoades
July 1, 1922 - Dec. 27, 2019
Palo Alto, California
Eleanor Jane Rhoades, nee Marcy, passed away peacefully after a short illness, with family by her side. She was born and raised in the rural Sand Hills of Nebraska, where she lived a happy childhood surrounded by loving and supportive parents and siblings. Eleanor moved to Palo Alto California in 1942, ostensibly as a transfer to Stanford University, but at least in part to escape the prairie winters. When housing was not available for the Fall term, she decided that a college degree was not that important to her and found work at the Moffett Field Naval Air Station. She met her future husband, a fellow Nebraska expatriate, across the dinner table of a boarding house in Palo Alto in December 1943. They quickly became inseparable companions until he shipped out for the war in Europe. She wrote a letter to him every day while he was gone. They married in October 1946 soon after he returned. After building their first house in Barron Park, they moved to a house nearby in 1955, where they raised their 2 sons, and where Eleanor lived until she passed away. Along the way, the family lived in Scotland for 2 years in the mid-60’s while Russell was there on company business. There...
March 28, 1940 - Dec. 25, 2019
Fred Dorn, a 35-year resident of East Palo Alto, died on Christmas Day, 2019, of heart failure. Fred was born in Baltimore, Maryland and grew up in Houston, Texas. After graduating from the University of Texas with a BA In Anthropology, Fred joined the Peace Corps in 1965 where he met his wife, Midge. He taught English and learned to read and write Thai in a small town in northern Thailand. When he returned to the United States, he became a technical writer and worked for several Bay Area technology companies. He retired in 2001. Fred was always curious and had many interests including photography, music, ham radios, building computers, and traveling to Mexico to study Spanish. He also enjoyed being in community theater productions at Menlo Players Guild including Bus Stop, Once Upon a Mattress and Annie Get Your Gun. He particularly loved performing in musicals and often sang the songs at home. Fred loved his family and they all enjoyed spending time together, sharing lots of laughter. In 2017, Fred and Midge moved to Davis, California. In the last year, he had several falls eventually leading to his death. He is survived by his wife of 51 years and his daughters, Lisa...
Iris Elaine Bacolini
Feb. 24, 1927 - Dec. 22, 2019
Palo Alto, California
Iris Elaine Hughes Bacolini was born on February 24, 1927 in Billings, Montana and later was a Palo Alto resident for 62 years. In 1943, she moved to San Francisco to help with the war effort. Iris met and married Frank Bacolini in June 1946. Iris loved watching Bay Area Sports (the Giants were her favorite), playing cards, and most of all, enjoying time with her grandchildren and great grandchildren. Iris is survived by her sons, Bart Bacolini and wife Valora, Vince Bacolini and Marie Riggs; daughter, Laura Munks; grandchildren, Trevor Bacolini and wife Lynette, Trent Bacolini and wife Lisa, Michelle Scaduto and husband Chris, Lindsey Bacolini, Matt Bacolini, Jessica Munks and husband Kyle, and Cristina Munks and husband James; great grandchildren Douglas Bacolini and wife Sarah, Taylar Bacolini, Logan Scaduto, and Layla Scaduto; sister, Virginia Sims; along with extended family, Marissa Culver and son Tripp. She was truly loved by all and will be dearly missed. Any donations can be made to the charity of your choice on her behalf....
Nov. 22, 1937 - Dec. 16, 2019
Portola Valley, CA
Darlene Eloise Tell Rutherford was born November 22, 1937 in Turlock California. She passed away peacefully on December 16, 2019. Darlene grew up on a dairy farm in Hilmar, California, and went to both North Park College in Chicago and San Jose State University, earning a bachelor's degree in Nursing. She worked as a public health nurse in Santa Clara County for close to ten years before marrying Sherman Rutherford and moving to Torino, Italy for a year. Darlene and Sherman returned to California and had two sons. She then spent the next 50 years making her home a welcome refuge for friends and family, as well as volunteering her time in the community and the church. Darlene was a loving, gracious person who cared deeply about others. She worked as a Patient Relations Advocate at Stanford Hospital and started or led Stephen Ministries at three different churches. Her beloved husband Sherman preceded her in death by one year. Darlene is survived by her brother and two sisters, Durwood Tell, Mavis Tell, and Marianne Bovee, as well as her two sons, Philip Rutherford and Kurt Rutherford, their spouses Wendy and Jenny, and five grandchildren whom she loved and prayed for daily: Levi,...
Anne Eastham Lewis
Aug. 21, 1936 - Dec. 14, 2019
Carmel Valley, California
On Saturday, December 14, 2019, Anne Eastham Lewis passed away at age 83 from progressive dementia. She is survived by her sister Margaret Tavener Eastham, her first husband John Richard Neff, her daughters Linda Neff Sunde and Pamela Lewis Thornton, her sons-in-law Doug Sunde and Tom Thornton, her son John Lewis, Jr., her nephews Thomas and David Dawkins, and her six grandchildren. Both her parents, son Steven Neff, and her second husband John M. Lewis predeceased her. On August 21, 1936, Anne’s parents Arthur Jackson Eastham and Elizabeth Wilkins Eastham of Houston celebrated their first child—a tall blond-headed, blue-eyed daughter. Anne and younger sister Margaret embraced life in River Oaks, but longed for the family trips to their home in Galveston Bay to fish, crab, and explore the coast in the warm Texas sun. An athletic child, Anne and her doubles’ partner Jill Kyle became the top girls’ tennis team in the state of Texas! Anne graduated in 1954 from Lamar High School with honors and earned admission to Stanford University, where she majored in Spanish and joined the Texas, Ski, and Spirit Clubs. In 1958, swept away by a tall, handsome Stanford engineer and f...
Eleanor Ruud Shelling
Dec. 8, 1928 - Oct. 25, 2019
Palo Alto, CA
Eleanor Ruud Shelling, nee Eleanor Agnes Opal Ruud, and familiarly known as Ellie, passed away on October 25, 2019. She was born on December 8, 1928 in Crookston, Minnesota to Olivia Holtan Ruud and Carl Oscar Ruud, both of Norwegian descent. Ellie was the youngest of three daughters. She had a strong will that overcame decades of poor health and lived until shortly before her 91st birthday. She is survived by her sister Evelyn Kranz (Evie), her daughters Susan Lopes (Saake) and Lori Shelling, and her grand-daughter Olivia Lopes, with whom she had an especially loving relationship. After graduating Crookston High, Ellie attended University of Minnesota as an English major. At age 18, she and her sister Evie won Minneapolis’ “Beautiful Sisters” contest, with a first-plane-ride thrilling trip to Chicago. In the summer of 1949 she and a Pi Phi sister ventured west to California to work at the Brockway Resort in North Lake Tahoe. Ellie and the summer crew performed water ballet shows for hotel guests including Claus Shelling, a Stanford student, whom she would marry six years later. Ellie earned her BA at and then taught English at U of M. In 1955 she was granted a Fulbrig...
Oct. 21, 1930 - Jan. 11, 2020 Mountain View, California
Mountain View resident Benjamin McKendall died on January 11. He was 89. Loved for his generosity and openness, Benjamin knew the greetings in some two dozen languages. Nothing pleased him more than addressing people in their native tongues, watching their faces light up, and launching conversati...
Nov. 10, 1921 - Dec. 31, 2019 Portland, Oregon
James Blackaby, a longtime Palo Alto resident, passed away in Portland, Oregon, on December 31 at the age of 98. Jim was born on November 10, 1921, to Earl and Bertha Kincaid Blackaby and grew up in Ontario, Oregon. In 1939 he attended University of Oregon. He became an ATO and a devoted Ducks fan ...
Neil J. Jensen
June 26, 1933 - Dec. 29, 2019 Mountain View, California
Neil John Jensen, Mountain View resident since 1971, was born in Salt Lake City, Utah and has died of complications due to cancer. He is survived by his wife of 48 years, Martha Meria, four daughters, Tonya Wellington, Terri Jensen, Teddi Jensen, Gwen Jensen, six grandchildren and 14 great grand...
Jan. 26, 1936 - Dec. 16, 2019 Menlo Park, California
Ric, whose given name is Ralph Irving Choplin, Jr., died peacefully at Stanford Hospital on Monday, December 16th 2019. He was 83. Kind, wicked smart, enigmatic, curious and extremely proud of his beloved daughter and grandson, Ric loved a fine turn of phrase, hamburgers + football at the Oasis, we...